Motherhood is a choice you make every day, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is… and to forgive yourself over and over again for doing everything wrong.”

-Unknown
a photo of me taken by my daughter

What do you think of the quote? For me, it feels like the writer got inside my head a bit. We do go into motherhood blindly not always knowing what the best choice will be and making plenty of mistakes along the way.

I know I made plenty of mistakes. I could have presented my children with new foods more often. I could have relaxed and had a bit more fun with them. I could have been more hospitable and served as a better example of how to welcome others into our home. ( I do like my privacy.) There were times when I refused to help them, thinking it would serve as a natural consequence, and yet really what they probably needed was more love and caring. There were times when I spoke harshly and let my frustration get the better of me.

And I’ve had to forgive myself for all those mistakes and more. What helps me with the forgiveness is this: I would not want to have perfect parents myself, because if I did, I would have a ridiculously high standard to live up to and would be exceedingly hard on myself when I consistently fell short of the mark.

Moms… be good to yourself. Take some time for self care. Get support. Forgive yourself. And love your children. You will make mistakes but as long as you stay present and take care of yourself, you will be there for your children when they need you and they will grow up well.

How do you care for yourself so that you can better care for others? Please share in the comments.

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